FAQ & Rules

The Tampa Bay Phoenix Club is a PRIVATE MEMBERSHIP CLUB in Largo, Florida. We are NOT a public business. This means we can make and enforce our rules.

Our dress code rules include a MANDATORY face mask rule. By joining, attending events, and maintaining your membership in good standing, you are agreeing to abide by ALL Club rules, including Covid-19 precautions, face mask rules, and any event vaccination requirements. We reserve the right to tighten mask restrictions for any event without prior notice.

If you’re interested in joining, please read this entire page before clicking the link to the New Member Orientation Class ticket page at the bottom.

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We currently require ALL tickets to be purchased in advance online. No cash or walk-up ticket sales allowed.

Event tickets, membership, and class fees are non-refundable. Currently, we are restricting attendance for safety. We are a volunteer-run club and our bills are paid through ticket fees, class fees, and memberships. If you give us 48+ hours notice that you can’t make an event/class, we will transfer your ticket to another date and can then attempt to resell your spot. If you give us less than 48 hours notice, especially if we cannot fill your spot, we reserve the right not to carry your ticket/class fee over to a future date, depending on the circumstances.

If you are NOT an existing member, you cannot attend member-only events until you have first taken our New Member Orientation Class. If you miss your New Member Orientation Class, you will not be able to attend member events, even if you’ve purchased tickets, until you complete one. Please read this entire page before clicking the link at the bottom to purchase tickets.

If you’re already a member and would like to renew your existing membership without attending an event, you can do so at this link: Click Here.

FAQs

Q: How do I join?

A: You must be at least 18 years of age or older to attend/join. We require a government-issued photo ID with your date of birth on it. This is NOT optional. (Driver’s license/state ID, military ID, passport, etc.) Upon initial joining/renewal, we run EVERYONE through the USDOJ database of registered sex offenders and need to verify your age and legal name. If you appear in the USDOJ database, you will not be allowed membership or to attend events.

You must also take a New Member Orientation Class. The class fee is your first year of membership. Read this entire page first, then click the link at the bottom to go to our New Member Orientation Class ticket page. The class lasts approximately three hours and you must stay for the entire class for your membership to be approved.

NOTE: If you were a member in the past, you only have to renew, not take the class. However, if it’s been more than three years since you last attended we strongly recommend taking the class so you are up-to-date on our current rules.

Q: What about alcohol or drugs?

A: The Phoenix does NOT allow alcohol or drugs (including poppers), and has a zero-tolerance policy in effect. DO NOT bring them. Violators will be immediately ejected from the club without a refund and permanently banned. Also, if someone arrives and we believe they are intoxicated or otherwise impaired, we reserve the right to deny them entry for the evening, or prevent them from playing that night.

WE ARE NOT A BAR. YOU ARE FORBIDDEN FROM BRINGING ALCOHOL. We are SERIOUS about this rule. NO ALCOHOL means NO ALCOHOL. You can drink at any other number of places, including your own home. We reserve the right to inspect all coolers, beverage, and food containers brought into the club, and possibly deny items be brought in.

Yes, you may bring NON-alcoholic beverages. (We do NOT allow non-alcoholic beer or kombucha.) And yes, you may bring your own food. Also, yes, you may bring a reusable cup/water bottle of your own to use all evening. (We thank you for that because it saves us a few pennies!)

Q: Towels and blankets?

A: Thanks to Covid, we no longer provide towels or blankets. You must bring your own. If your bare bum is exposed, you must sit on a towel or blanket. We have a limited number available for sale in the office.

Q: What can I expect to see?

A: That depends on what event you attend. Some of our events, like certain classes and demos, socials, munches, and coffee times are NOT play events, and you’ll see people in street clothes socializing, or attending whatever the class/demo is. If it’s a play event, the activities that you might witness can vary drastically depending on the evening. For example, on a rope night, you’ll have a different experience than on a night where it might be an open play night.

Q: Can I rent the club?

Due to Covid we are not currently renting the club at this time. When we resume rentals, the renter must be a member and all club rules must be adhered to. We reserve the right, depending on the use, to require all attendees to be members and sign waiver forms before being allowed to attend. We do not rent the dungeon for commercial BDSM services.

Q: I am het/gay/trans/CD/disabled/single/______. Am I welcomed?

A: We welcome ANY person who is 18 or older and agrees to abide by our rules, regardless of their gender, orientation, or identification on the LGBTQ rainbow, or their kink interests. (Provided they are NOT a registered sex offender.) Our membership ranges from 18-80+, and a diverse rainbow of genders, orientations, relationship dynamics, and power exchange dynamics/kink/fetish interests.

Please note: our staff does their best to properly pronoun people. If we are mistakenly using the wrong pronoun, please let us know! Or if you have a preferred name besides your legal/dead name, please let us know that so we can note it. Thanks!

Q: How many women are there tonight?

A: Um, for starters, EW, that’s a creepy fricking question.

We are a private membership club, a kinky community center. We welcome newbies but if you think you’re going to show up on any given night and immediately meet someone to play–especially in the post-Covid-19 era–you’re wrong. You need to start attending events regularly, meet people, let them get to know you. You can never depend on FetLife’s event “attendance” list because many of our members aren’t using FetLife. We have had nights that started out really slow and picked up later because people arrived from other events. We’ve had nights that started out packed, and people played early and then left, and by 10:00 it’s dead. And we have nights that are steady from beginning to end. We can never predict attendance.

Q: What about my safety? Will I be hit on every five minutes?

A: Contrary to misconceptions perpetrated in popular media, people who attend events are not at any greater risk than anyone attending public events. As with any social gathering, people might approach you to talk. If at any time you feel uncomfortable, please immediately approach one of our volunteers to intervene.

Q: Do you have a dress code? What do I wear? How revealing must I be?

NOTE: We have mandatory face mask rules in place.

A: Some events are street legal/casual wear. (Check the event description for more info.) Some events have a “theme.” Theme nights (unless otherwise specified in the event description) are always optional, and we do not turn people away for how they’re dressed as long as they arrive street-legal. (And you’re not stinky because you haven’t bathed in a year or something. LOL) By “street-legal” we mean you must have your “pink bits” covered. Whether it’s casual clothes, or full formal fetish, or your leathers, or a sexy dress, or full latex (but seriously, summer in FLORIDA??), or shorts and a T-shirt, or you’re a cross-dresser, or you wear your unicorn onesie–we honestly do NOT care.

By “street-legal” it means you need to arrive covered in such a way that at the very least if you’re walking down St. Pete Beach it won’t get you arrested for indecent exposure. (Please do NOT take that as a “challenge-accepted” to show up in a Speedo or bikini.)

We do however have a mandatory face mask rule. If we have to remind you three times to put your mask on, we will ask you to leave (no refund). We have a limited number of masks available for sale (touchless pay/credit/debit card only).

As far as regular play events, we ask everyone to either arrive in normal street clothes and change when you get here, or be covered up “street-legal” upon arrival. So, anything you feel comfortable in. Full fetish gear, to street clothes, to nothing at all. It’s all welcome once you’re inside. Fetish wear is admired, not required. We do require if you are naked, or otherwise attired in such a way as your bare bottom might be touching furniture, that you sit on a towel. If you don’t bring one you’ll need to buy one from us.

Note that for non-play events and classes, the attire is usually street/casual clothes, and nudity is NOT allowed at events like munches/coffee times, classes, etc.

WE PROHIBIT ANY CLOTHING WITH LOGOS OR SYMBOLS RELATING TO ANY KIND OF HATE GROUP, OFFENSIVE SUBJECT MATTER, OR ANY KINDS OF COSTUMES REFLECTING ANY KIND OF HATE GROUP OR OFFENSIVE SUBJECT MATTER. (No Nazi play, etc.)

We reserve the right to require a member to change/remove any item of clothing or accessory we feel is offensive, reflects a hate group, or is otherwise negatively impacting other attendees/operations. We also reserve the right to deny entry to anyone dressed in such attire.

Q: What about photography (outside of photography nights/classes)?

A: Outside of our special photography events, ABSOLUTELY NO photography of any kind is allowed without prior permission from management, the DM must take the picture with your device (NO FLASH), and will immediately review of the photos before the photographic device is allowed to be removed from the premises. Anyone caught taking unauthorized pictures or video or audio will have their device immediately confiscated by management, the device will be FACTORY RESET TO COMPLETELY WIPE IT BEFORE IT IS RETURNED TO YOU, and you will be immediately removed and banned from the premises.

Yes, we REALLY mean this. WE WILL CONFISCATE AND FACTORY-RESET YOUR DEVICE.

Q: Do you allow sex in your club? Is this a swinger club? Are you a sex club? Are you a strip club? Do you have private rooms?

A: NO. NO. NO. NO. and NO.

We ARE a sex-positive club–we’re positive you CANNOT HAVE SEX IN OUR CLUB.

We do NOT allow sex in our club, and we are NOT a swingers club. If you have any questions about what activities are permitted and prohibited, please ask staff BEFORE you play.

We are NOT a sex club. We are NOT a strip club. There is no “show” to watch. We do NOT have paid performers/players, and we do NOT have staff performers/players. This is a private membership club. Please see the video we have posted with a tour of our facility.

Q: Can I just drop in to look around?

A. No. We are a private membership club and for the safety and privacy of our members and volunteers we do not allow unticketed people entry to our facility. Please view our quick video tour of our facility to see what it looks like inside. If you want to see in person what our facility looks like without joining, buy a ticket to one of the munches or classes that allows non-members to attend.

Q: I saw someone playing and want to meet them. What’s the best way?

A: Being polite is always a good first step. If the person is not engaged in a scene or aftercare, politely ask if they can talk, introduce yourself, and talk with them. Don’t be rude or pushy. And if they decline to talk, or don’t want to play, accept that and move on. If you’re nervous, ask one of our volunteers for guidance/advice. That’s what we’re here for!

Q: Do I have to play? Is it mandatory?

A: No and NO! Never allow yourself to be drawn into a situation where you are uncomfortable. Forget the nonsense you’ve read in books about uncollared submissives being grabbed and forced to play. That DOES NOT HAPPEN. Think of it as a kinky bar…without alcohol. You might have someone approach you and want to talk. And like in any other normal social situation, if you’re uncomfortable, either disengage from them, or approach a staff member to intervene. That’s what they’re there for. Some people only come to watch or socialize with friends. Participation is never required. We view ourselves as a kinky community center.\

Q: Can I just come and watch after I join? I’m new and just want to observe for a few events.

A: Yes, that’s fine! You are never obligated to participate. You still have to take our New Member Orientation Class, though, before you can attend events.

Q: I’m afraid I’ll sit there all night by myself.

A: We encourage newbies to talk to our volunteers! We’ll either sit you with them, or introduce you to other members who will welcome you to sit with them and talk. (It doesn’t mean you might play, it just means we don’t want people sitting there all by themselves because they’re nervous.) PLEASE feel free to ask the volunteers at check-in to introduce you and remind us that you’re newer. (We can’t read your mind!) We were all new once and we want all of our new members to feel welcomed.

Q. I’m looking for a pro-Dom/me.

A. Sorry, we do not work with any pro-Dom/mes, and we do not give referrals or recommendations. We also do NOT provide play partners for people. This is a private membership club. Pro-Dom/mes are NOT allowed to conduct “business” on our premises. They can be members, but ONLY in their “free time.”

Q. I am a pro-Dom/me and want to attend.

This is a private membership club. You are welcomed to join and become a member, but you may NOT use our facility for commercial BDSM activities. Our rules prohibit commercial/pay-to-play/professional BDSM activities. Anyone found in violation of this rule will be ejected, banned, and their membership revoked without refund.

Also, while you are here, do not engage in business discussions about adult-related business, like trying to set up a porn shoot, or telling people you’re a professional Dom/me, etc. If you are ever approached by anyone with those kinds of discussions, please bring it to a staffer’s attention so they can take care of it.

NOTE: You CAN discuss subjects like photography TECHNIQUES, things like that.

Q. Can you hook me up to play with someone? Do you have people on staff to play with? Can I join your staff as a Top/bottom?

A. No. Our staff is an all-volunteer staff, and we do NOT provide play partners. The best way to meet new play partners is to get out to community events (like coffee times and munches) and talk to people. It usually takes attending a regular event a minimum of three times before someone relaxes enough to actually start meeting and connecting with people. So don’t attend once and never return. Everyone was new once. The more you get out and meet people, the easier it is to talk to people. Do some of our volunteers play? Yes, because we’re all members of the club. But do not arrive with the expectation that you’ll be able to arrange for someone to play with you.

Q: Do you provide implements to play with?

A: Due to Covid, we no longer loan out implements or rope. You must bring your own. We do have an assortment of implements for sale in our office. We have hard-points for suspension and play furniture (see our video tour), but you must bring your own implements.

Q: How do I become a volunteer?

A: We are not currently recruiting new volunteers at this time. When we do, the Club management approaches members who have been attending the club on a regular basis and who have shown through their actions that they are team players willing to step up and pitch in and help do whatever needs to be done without being asked. Running the Club is more than just showing up for events and playing–it involves doing all the not-fun stuff behind the curtain (cleaning, paperwork, maintenance, shopping for supplies, repairs, etc.) that goes into keeping the Club running. Remember that the Club is a business, and to remain open it has to pay its bills. All of our volunteers are also paid members, and they do what they do for the Club not to get free entrance but because they enjoy being of service to our community and ensuring that the Tampa Bay Phoenix Club remains a fun, safe, welcoming place to attend. They enjoy educating and sharing their knowledge with other members.

 

Club Rules

(Not a complete list of rules, and subject to revision/modification without prior notice. Follow a staffer’s directions. If you have never attended or joined the club in the past, you still must attend the New Member Orientation Class even if you’ve memorized this list of rules.)

NOTE: We are a PRIVATE MEMBERSHIP CLUB, NOT a public business. By joining, attending events, and maintaining your membership, you are agreeing to abide by ALL Club rules, including any mask rules, rules regarding Covid-19 safeguards, and any event vaccination requirements. If you do not agree with these rules, do not join or attend events. Members who fail to abide by Club rules risk being ejected and banned. Disciplinary actions are final and not subject to debate.

  • MASK RULE: We have a mandatory face mask dress code rule. When masks are required, you must wear it over your mouth AND nose, not around your chin. If we have to remind you three times to wear your mask properly, we will ask you to leave (no refund). We have a limited number of masks available for sale (touchless pay/credit/debit card only).
  • Players assume ALL risk for their activities and attendance. In a world with Covid-19, we cannot guarantee anything.
  • Temperature checks will take place upon arrival and throughout the evening.
  • If you or someone in your household has been exposed to Covid-19, or you’re waiting for test results, do not attend. If you’ve been traveling in the past 14 days, or attended a large event, or work in a high-risk/high-exposure job, do not attend.
  • Maintain your distance from others unless you have explicitly obtained their consent to approach them.
  • Do not congregate in the office. If you aren’t checking in or purchasing something from the retail section, please go outside or remain in the play space.
  • Please use only one chair throughout the event and don’t move tables or play furniture. If you use one of the couches for seating or aftercare, please wipe it down when finished. At the end of the night, please dispose of all trash, and wipe down your table and chair with wipes or the spray cleaner and paper towels.
  • We have hand sanitizer available throughout the facility–please use it frequently and wash your hands frequently. (You can use the mop sinks in either play space if the bathrooms are in use.)
  • Please thoroughly clean your play station (including the puzzle mats) before and after play with the provided spray bottles of CaviCide and paper towels. (NOT the “Clorox” wipes.) Please replace the spray bottles on the red trays when finished so they don’t drip on the tables. Do not let someone use your play station until after you’ve cleaned it.
  • The Tampa Bay Phoenix Club and its volunteers assume no responsibility for lost/stolen/damaged items.
  • If it’s not yours, don’t touch it. This includes people, implements, and other possessions. Do NOT assume something is there for everyone to use–ASK FIRST.
  • NO means NO. It is a complete sentence requiring no further explanation. If someone tells you NO, respect that. Violators of this policy will be ejected and banned immediately.
  • NO sex. For clarification of what activities are allowed and what is prohibited, please ask staff or a DM before play commences. We REALLY MEAN it when we say NO sex. You will be immediately ejected and banned from the Club if you attempt to break this rule.
  • NO alcohol. NO ALCOHOL. DO NOT BRING ALCOHOL ONTO OUR PROPERTY OR YOU WILL BE IMMEDIATELY BANNED. (No non-alcoholic beer or kombucha, either. N/A beer bottles look like real beer and causes unnecessary work for our volunteers to patrol, and some kombucha has higher levels of alcohol in it.)
  • NO drugs (including poppers).
  • NO smoking/vaping inside the building or next to the front door or AC units, and use the provided butt receptacle.
  • There is filtered water from the cooler (free). Please write your name on a cup and use the same cup all night to help us keep down expenses. Ditto coffee cups.
  • There is ice in the freezer. Use a scoop from the door to handle ice and RETURN it to the door to keep it from getting buried by ice!
  • If you take a soda, please leave a minimum $1 donation in the provided buckets to help offset expenses. We are no longer providing the 2-liters of soda for free due to Covid, and canned beverages are more expensive. You may bring your own reusable cups, bottles, and your own non-alcoholic beverages. We can also take donations for sodas via card/tap/phone pay. Donations of canned soda to put in the fridge are GREATLY appreciated!
  • We have an assortment of pre-packaged snacks available for sale in the office (chips, cookies, nuts, etc). We no longer provide free and open snacks due to Covid. Donations of pre-packaged snacks to sell in the office are GREATLY appreciated! (We can take exact change in cash, or card/tap/phone pay.)
  • Yes, you may bring your own food. If you bring food to share, please label it with a sticky note for any allergens.
  • During open play events, NO photography/videography/recording unless it is a special photography event, or has been cleared in advance by staff and is directly supervised by staff. Violators of this policy will be banned AND YOUR DEVICE WILL BE CONFISCATED, ERASED, AND FACTORY RESET.
  • NO USE of cell phones, tablets, e-readers, or any other device capable of taking photos, recording video, or recording sound, inside the play spaces/classroom. Please silence phone ringers, alerts, and other audible notifications. (Excluding medical devices.) You may step out into the office or outside to use your phone/device. You may have the device in your possession in the play spaces/classroom, but you may not take it OUT. (We have clocks on the walls.) Any phone or other device capable of taking photos or recording audio and/or video must be stowed in your bag, purse, pocket, or otherwise put away. Phone holsters where the phone’s camera is exposed may not be used.
  • NOTE: Because of Covid we are currently NOT allowing any blood play, or other play that could spill body fluids. (No cutting, blood cupping, etc.) Any blood or body fluids during play means the scene needs to pause, clean that up, and then play can resume.
  • NO spitting during play.
  • NO urine, NO feces, NO intentional vomiting as part of a scene. (This means no “diaper play.” You can wear one, but no toileting play is allowed.) You are responsible for cleaning up anything, and if our staff determines it was deliberate on your part you will be evicted and banned.
  • NO firearm/gun play (real or simulated).
  • NO breath play, choking, smothering play, constricting neck ropes, or other neck restraints that can tighten. (NON-tightening ties that function similarly to a collar are allowed.) If a bottom is standing, do NOT attach anything to their neck other than a collar (or a leash that you’re holding in your hand), and do NOT then attach anything to the collar and then to an overhead hardpoint. If their knees go out, you’ve just hung them, crushed their trachea, or snapped their neck. This also means no face-sitting, even with clothes on.
  • We have rolls of paper and shrink wrap you can cover the medical tables with; ask if you don’t see them.
  • We allow wax play, but you must bring your own supplies. If engaging in wax play, please cover the table with provided paper/plastic, ask for the broom and dustpan before your scene begins, and clean up any wax crumbs immediately after. If you do not clean up after yourself you risk your membership being revoked.
  • Any fire play, needle/medical/cutting play, wax play, or other similar play is NOT allowed in the Manor section (carpeted) and may only be done in the Dungeon section (concrete floor). Notify a DM BEFORE you do a scene like that so we are aware of it and can make sure we have adequate DM supervision and safety equipment on hand. It’s always a good idea to notify us EARLY so if it’s busy we can make sure you get your scene in. (This has nothing to do with your skills and everything to do with ensuring everyone’s safety and preventing intrusions into your scene.) Fire play requires you have a wet towel (bring your own towel) on hand, as well as a fire extinguisher nearby, and a DM observing.
  • Clean all equipment you use immediately after play with the provided CaviCide spray & papertowels, and dispose of all trash in the provided garbage cans. Dispose of your cups, plates, etc. At the end of the night, clean and wipe down your chair and table with provided supplies. Members who do not clean up after themselves will have their membership revoked.
  • Limit scenes (including set-up and break down) to 60 minutes. Time limits are at the DMs’ discretion depending on the circumstances. Please move your belongings away from a piece of play equipment immediately after you are finished playing so others know it’s available. Do not leave your stuff set up and go do aftercare–clear it first. Do not “stake out” a piece of equipment and leave your bags, because staff WILL move them. If you want to use a specific piece of equipment that’s busy, we strongly suggest telling our DMs so they can help facilitate the logistics. Also, don’t rush in and start setting up while someone else is still at a piece of equipment unless you’ve cleared it with them in advance.
  • If you are going to do more than one scene on a piece of equipment, conduct your first scene, clean it, and MOVE so someone else can use it (or check with the DMs to see if anyone else wants to use it) and allow someone else to have a turn on it. Or move to a different piece of equipment for your next scene.
  • Do not sit on or otherwise tie up play equipment unless you are actively using it for play. You should be sitting in the social areas, not the play areas. Do not use play equipment to hold your implements. Our DMs will move your stuff. Play equipment is NOT seating. If you sit on it, you clean it. Anything you play/sit on MUST be cleaned afterward.
  • If nude, or your bare bottom is exposed, you MUST sit on a towel or blanket. Bring your own. We have a limited number for sale in the office.
  • Notify DMs/staff before conducting edge play. (Fire play of any kind, knife play, suspensions, medical play, etc.) For play involving elements of fire/fire play, please make sure to take all safety precautions before play starts. (Some types of fire play are not allowed due to safety issues and facility/space constraints. Please ask us first what is and isn’t allowed if in doubt.) Depending on the situation, permission for some types of play might be denied on a case-by-case or night-by-night basis. We do our best to try to accommodate our members but safety is our priority. We might ask for you to delay your scene to allow staff/DMs time to prepare properly. We appreciate your understanding and cooperation. If you have any questions about this policy, please feel free to contact us ahead of time to discuss it or to make arrangements in advance.
  • NEVER leave someone suspended or restrained without direct supervision. (Meaning you are within arm’s length of them, NOT across the room watching them.) DMs/staff reserves the right to step in and free anyone they find unsupervised who is suspended/restrained. Meaning if you don’t want those ropes cut, then do NOT leave your bottom unattended. Offenders will have their membership revoked. If you have an EMERGENCY situation and need to leave your scene, flag down a DM or get a friend to step in to supervise them while you take care of the emergency. (Taking a smoke break is NOT an emergency.)
  • Rope riggers: Have safety scissors/knife/rope cutter on hand (meaning EASILY ACCESSIBLE ON YOUR PERSON or next to you on the floor, NOT stuck in a pocket of your bag) for emergency situations. If doing a suspension, please have a safety spotter or notify DMs before starting. We also have bolt cutters on hand. All suspensions require “puzzle” mats under them for additional safety. Please clean all mats after use with the Cavicide spray and paper towels. No shoes or chairs on the puzzle mats.
  • If using the Manor chains for suspension, only ONE bottom per chain, and use the puzzle mats under them for safety. Also, don’t jump onto or spin the chains, or Tarzan swing from them.
  • Do NOT encroach, intervene, interrupt, or otherwise interfere in someone else’s scene unless they specifically ask for your assistance/participation. People who disrupt scenes will be ejected and banned. If someone calls MAYDAY, that is an all-call for outside assistance to step in. If you don’t hear that, and you see something that concerns you, find someone with a name badge to bring it to their attention. (For example, they might have told us their safeword for the evening is MEATLOAF and not RED.)
  • Please keep conversations on the social side of the spaces. Be mindful of where you’re standing so you don’t block others’ view of the play area or infringe on the play area, and please don’t talk in such a way as to disrupt ongoing scenes.
  • The social areas are NOT for play.
  • The play areas are NOT for socializing.
  • Please leave Tops room to swing implements. If you are not involved in a scene, do not impede the play of others or stand too close to their play area. If you get hit by a Top swinging an implement, it is YOUR fault for getting too close. Think about it like track and field events–heads UP, or heads OFF. the busier we are, the smaller your play area is.
  • Refrain from intentionally cracking whips unless it’s a designated whip class. During play events we do not normally allow whips over 4′. If your whip is over 4′ and you wish to use it during your scene, please talk to a DM first to see if we can accommodate you.
  • If your bottom is noisy (likes to scream, constantly moans, giggles, or laughs loudly) gag them. If your scene is making excessive noise to the point you are infringing on other scenes, DMs reserve the right to step in and give the Top a warning or even end the scene, if necessary.
  • Do not take food or open containers of drinks (except water) into the play areas. ABSOLUTELY NO FOOD-PLAY IN THE MANOR.
  • Please reserve couches for those needing to conduct aftercare. If couches are full, please give up your seat to someone needing it for aftercare. After sitting on the couches, wipe down your space.
  • Do not leave your implement bags on the couches or in chairs. Staff reserves the right to move items if seating is needed. We provide shelving in the Dungeon for implement bag storage, and in the Manor you can stow them along the wall or under one of the folding tables.
  • Only ONE person at a time in the bathrooms/changing room. If you need a caregiver accommodation for a disability, notify our DMs BEFORE, so we aren’t cop-knocking on the bathroom door. When finished, please leave the bathroom door open and the light off (otherwise a line will form).
  • Anyone going into the office or outside must be dressed or otherwise “street-legal” in their attire. (This means cover up your pink bits.) Even if just crossing through the office from one section to the other–YES, you MUST BE COVERED. Grab a blanket and wrap it around you.
  • Absolutely NO play is allowed in the office or outside. Absolutely NO trespassing allowed inside the “shell” building next door.
  • Please do not hesitate to ask our DMs/staff questions, ask for assistance, or bring problems to their attention. We want all our members to have a safe and fun experience.
  • Obey all instructions issued by DMs/staff. DMs/staff have the authority to intervene or stop any scene. Failure to obey the DMs/staff may result in you being ejected and banned from the Club.
  • Management/staff reserves the right to amend these rules as needed without prior notification.

The bottom line is be courteous, and do not touch people, or possessions, that do not belong to you. Do NOT interfere or interrupt any scenes in progress, either by getting too close, talking to the participants, or talking too loudly near the participants. If you have any questions, ask one of our volunteers FIRST. NO means NO, and we are serious about that. If someone tells you NO, respect it. They do NOT owe you an explanation.

Our universal safeword is RED. If you need immediate outside assistance during a scene, call out MAYDAY. (Health issue, glass breakage, equipment failure, suspension going wrong, etc.)

Edge play must be cleared with DMs/staff first to make sure we can accommodate it and to ensure your play isn’t accidentally interrupted mid-scene. We do our best to accommodate players and their scenes. (Fire play/fire cupping, knife scenes, etc.) At this time, due to Covid, we are NOT allowing medical play that can spill blood or other bodily fluids. (Cutting, wet knife play, etc.)

If you have any questions, please contact us for more information.

Ready to sign up for a New Member Orientation Class? Please see our ticketing page to view our class schedule and purchase tickets! The class lasts approximately three hours and yes, you must stay for the ENTIRE class. You cannot attend member play events until you’ve completed a New Member Orientation Class.

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